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How many times have you asked yourself, "If only I knew."....."If only I had made a different choice."....."If only I had been more patient."........"If only I had paid closer attention.".........And why do we ask this question? Is it regret? disappointment? confusion? hurt feelings? humiliation? misunderstanding? What led us to this point? It was trust. TRUST is a little word with big meaning. TRUST is a cornerstone to a variety of relationship foundations. TRUST leads to hope which energizes actions of love. 

As time passes, choices and selfish motivations chisel away at the foundation of a relationship, and the pillars of TRUST which held up the relationship weaken. In this weakened state, a relationship can crumble. Sometimes, a crumbling relationship returns to dust, but then there are those relationships which are repaired, and the pillars are replaced.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

When a relationship fails was it due to the lack of TRUST in one of the parties or God? Maybe the crumbling pillars was due to a lack of TRUST in oneself.   Writers for Selfgrowth.com , Larry Wayne and Grace Johnston, explain that when someone has TRUST (confidence) within them, then a positive energy quiets doubt, fear, worry, and negative expectations. Positive energy can have a profound effect on a person and the people around them. They believe that if one doesn't TRUST oneself, then he or she won't TRUST others, and this can then attract untrustworthy people and situations. As TRUST falls away, irritation can pile up which then seems to create more cracks to a relationship.  Carl Jung, a psychologist, once stated that everything that irritates a person about others can lead to an understanding of oneself......so maybe if irritations are used a learning tool about individual weaknesses and strengths, then possibly the rebuilding of the pillars of TRUST can occur.  

Time is always a factor especially when middle age creeps up. When TRUST has been broken, it can never be rebuilt fast enough.  Aeschylus, a Greek playwright, once wrote that time brings all things to pass, so with this in mind, maybe time can be a friend by continuously providing opportunities for growth and repair.  It takes time to recharge a battery.  It takes time for the body to repair and grow as one sleeps.  It takes time for a savings account to earn significant interest. It takes time to raise children into healthy adults. If we TRUST our instincts, abilities, and choices through time, then just maybe we will attract TRUST back into our broken relationships.

St. Raphael, guide me through time to trust myself.
St. Francis de Sales, pray for my honorable intentions in my state of life.
Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, pray for my family.
St. Florian pray for the safety of all fire and emergency responders.
 - little petunia